Six Months

Yesterday, the 2nd, was six months. Six months that Mom has physically been gone from us.

Odd thing, I was not aware of the date until a dear friend sent a text, saying she was thinking of me on this six month anniversary. When Dad died, I was so aware of each month, every 13th I mourned his loss. Not so with Mom. Why? Is it the fact that Dad was the first to go? I don't know. I miss Mom just as much. I think of her every day, and the 1st was a tough day. 

Yes, when I got the text, I felt a bit guilty that I had not remembered. Did that mean I didn't love Mom? No. It simply means the grief process with Mom is very different than it was with Dad. And that's okay. As my sister, Sue, said 'This may not sound right but it's all good! She's with Dad and that's what she has always wanted.' True words.  Wise words. Time heals and life goes on. Feels like yesterday though, not six months. 


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