Saturday, December 3, 2011

Grow Up Ourselves

Ah, is there such a thing any more?  Seems in today's world, everyone wants to blame someone else for their problems.  'I'm this way because my parents spanked me' or 'I'm afraid to love because I was jilted 20 years ago' or 'I can't succeed because my teacher gave me an 'f' and it made me feel inadequate'...yadda yadda yadda. So, life isn't perfect...get up and move on, and instead of blaming take responsibility and move forward.

The other night we caught part of a movie - Death at a Funeral.  The original, British version, not the remake with Chris Rock.  It's quite a comedy, as only the British can do.  At one point, the son who feels inadequate in so many ways, gives a speech about his father (a secret life of his father has just been revealed and is quite shocking)...and his speech struck a chord with me.  Below is an excerpt of the speech:

"...Life isn't simple, it's complicated. We're all just thrown in here together, in a world full of chaos and confusion, a world full of questions and no answers, death always lingering around the corner, and we do our best. We can only do our best, and my dad did his best. He always tried to tell me that you have to go for what you want in life because you never know how long you're going to be here. And whether you succeed or you fail, the most important thing is to have tried. And apparently no one will guide you in the right direction, in the end you have to learn for yourself. You have to grow up yourself"

Life is complicated and there are no definitive answers.  There are no specific guidelines for how to live life.   Our parents can guide us, the Bible can guide us, but in the end we have to learn on our own; we have to grow up ourselves.  Grow up ourselves.  Stop blaming, stop making excuses and move forward...grow up ourselves.


  1. Hi Kristina,
    As usual, another great post. For me the first guidelines I learned were the Ten Commandments as a child many years ago. I must correct that, My lessons began as soon as I learned to walk by my parents. Don't touch the hot stove, don't cross the street, etc. We were taught right from wrong, to be kind, respect your elders, love one another, apologize if you are in the wrong. These are some of the simple lessons that help to keep a civilized society.
    What I witness in today's society, there are many broken homes, abortions, addictions of many kinds, Many expecting the government to fulfill their needs, most critical missing element is "Is there a God"
    YES! there is a very loving God, waiting for us with open arms to turn to him. His love is unconditional. It is thru His love & acceptance that we can all grow up, take up our cross, accept responsibility and become a loving member of society I challenge anyone to try it. With love.

  2. What a great comment! Thank you for having the courage to speak the truth...much love to you!

  3. As a youngster (Ha!) of 76 who has been married for 46 years to the same wonderful lady, I think I may say without fear of contradiction (After all, I'm writing this ) that this blog shows such heart and wisdom at such a young age! Not to mention the ability to write well. My best

  4. Count, you are too kind. Thank you for your encouragement. My parents raised us right, and I am forever grateful for all their love, guidance, and support. Life is too short to hold on to blame, anger and hurt...I think it's wonderful you've been married for such a long time...! Congrats to you and your Mrs.

  5. Wonderfully written as usual and very well that saying the same thing twice:):)?? That's why you're the writer...L

  6. So what it it's the same thing...thank you for the compliment, and thank you for're wonderful!